Estranged Foundations

A community space for people who were left to choose distance—so they could learn to love themselves.

This is a place for healing, not hiding. For growing, not getting stuck. We honor the strength it takes to walk away, and the courage it takes to keep walking forward.

We meet monthly on Zoom, but this page is here to connect, reflect, and remind each other: nothing is happening to us—we are happening for ourselves.

Maybe life gets better when we write our own story. Maybe healing looks different for everyone. And maybe, even when we think we don’t need anyone… we still need each other.

You saved yourself. Keep going.

You’re helping the brain and body rewrite the way they relate to pain.
You're guiding their system from shutdown → clarity → connection.
That’s not soft. That’s revolutionary.

Why You Might Feel “Off”

(And Why It’s Not Your Fault)

When we’re little, we don’t know how to make sense of everything.
We just feel. And we learn what’s “okay” by how people react to us.

If you were ever told (or shown) that your feelings were too much,
or that being quiet, helpful, or “good” made things easier—
you might’ve started hiding parts of yourself just to feel safe.

Over time, this turns into what we call shutting down or freezing.

You’re still living. You still show up.
But inside, you might feel numb, anxious, disconnected, or unsure of who you really are.

This is super common—and it’s not because something is wrong with you.
It’s just how your mind and body tried to protect you.